Choosing Connection in Conflict

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Do you ever feel like you are butting heads with your significant other, or close friend or even your furry companion?

The tendency to disconnect in conflict is tangible.

Disconnect bleeds into dischord and then it becomes us versus them.

In this mindset, conflict can drive a wedge between the two sides without repair, the gap grows larger and beliefs about being right take hold.

We begin to convince ourselves that its the other person or even our dog that is causing us so much pain and grief.

But, conflict doesn’t have to lead to distancing ourselves from those we love, including ourselves.

When we lean into love and invite in connection into conflict, we can heal the things that divide us.

When we are coming from a place of loving connection, we are more willing to communicate and receive feedback without judgment or ridicule.

Take a pause and embrace the ones you love that you may be struggling to find common ground.

Take a moment and ground yourself what your true desire is and create an expression of this feeling.

If you desire closeness with your dog, but your dog has a different agenda, then what will encourage your dog to seek you out?

If you find yourself at odds with a relationship at work, ask yourself, what do you need and see what shows up.

Conflict happens within us and all around us.

You can make the choice of how you want to handle it in your life and with the ones you love.

Which will you choose?

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Katherine Porter is a force free, reward based dog behavior advisor and consultant serving clients and their companion dogs worldwide. Her calm and gentle approach in coaching clients in effectively communicating what they want to their dog blends her MSW background into her dog training and behavior practice. Katherine was a behavior consultant for Heeling Hounds after graduation. She opened Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC when the military relocated her family to Fort Sill, OK in 2015. During this time, she volunteered with Rainbow Bridge Can Wait where she provided post adoption consultations to new pet parents. She also developed and implemented tailored behavior modification plans for highly reactive dogs residing at the shelter. She also provided educational programs to military children through interactive workshops at the Fort Sill School Age Center. In 2017, Katherine relocated Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC to Germany. She served the Armed Forces communities in Bavaria. She continued coaching and advising her clients in addressing their companion dog’s fearful and reactive behavioral issues. Katherine takes a Do No Harm approach first and foremost in providing behavioral plans. She is committed in serving clients with gentle and modern science approaches in modifying behavioral concerns such as reactivity, aggression, separation anxiety and fear based responses. Katherine is a member of the Pet Professional Guild. She is focused on integrating a holistic and modern approach in addressing her client’s pet companion reactive behavior issues.

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