Seeing What Happens When You Make Choices that Expand on What You Want Rather than What Others Expect from You

You feel like you don’t have time for yourself.

You expend your free time saying “yes” to others leading you to over extend yourself and leaving you depleted.

You feel frustrated when you come to the end of your weekend and you don’t have any more energy or time to do things you want to do for yourself let alone for your family.

Now, your dog is needing you too, but you feel like you don’t have any more to give.

You see your dog’s “behavior issues” like jumping up, whining, pacing more as a nuisance and just another thing to do.

You just want to scream!

When you’re willing to make changes in your life, you receive support in ways you didn’t know existed.

You find out that you can give yourself permission in doing things differently.

You recognize your truth and you can make the choice in doing things differently.

You live from a place of freedom, not from other people’s expectation.

When you activate your action steps from how you want to feel, your world expands.

One coaching client shared this with me the other day.

She felt overwhelmed by her dog’s behavior concerns because she was over extended in social and professional relationships and didn’t have any more to give.

When she realized her own power in how she can use her time in a manner which feeds into feeling a sense of freedom, she now sees how her dog’s needs matter.

When she shifted her mindset based on how she wants to feel confident in knowing how to help her dog and for her to dog to feel relaxed and safe, she feels more connected with her companion.

In one situation, she mentioned she used to become frustrated with her dog being underfoot in the kitchen and demanding her dog to get out.

Repeatedly saying “NO!”

Now on her path of changing patterns, she asks her dog to find a chewy (she recognized how she already taught her dog to do this).

Her dog responds by getting a chewy and goes into another room and entertains herself when my client is cooking dinner for her family.

After dinner, they spend time together playing some games and cuddling on the couch.

The simplest of actions saves her and her dog a ton of frustration and expands their capability to connect. Learning how to replenish my client’s emotional well starts with making choices which puts how she wants to feel front and center.

If something doesn’t align in this way, then she has the freedom to say “NO” to obligations that don’t serve her.

She’s finding the freedom in her life when she gives herself permission to prioritize what she wants versus what others expect from her.

You can get started on your journey too.

Set up a call with me!

Published by houndbiz

Katherine Porter is a force free, reward based dog behavior advisor and consultant serving clients and their companion dogs worldwide. Her calm and gentle approach in coaching clients in effectively communicating what they want to their dog blends her MSW background into her dog training and behavior practice. Katherine was a behavior consultant for Heeling Hounds after graduation. She opened Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC when the military relocated her family to Fort Sill, OK in 2015. During this time, she volunteered with Rainbow Bridge Can Wait where she provided post adoption consultations to new pet parents. She also developed and implemented tailored behavior modification plans for highly reactive dogs residing at the shelter. She also provided educational programs to military children through interactive workshops at the Fort Sill School Age Center. In 2017, Katherine relocated Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC to Germany. She served the Armed Forces communities in Bavaria. She continued coaching and advising her clients in addressing their companion dog’s fearful and reactive behavioral issues. Katherine takes a Do No Harm approach first and foremost in providing behavioral plans. She is committed in serving clients with gentle and modern science approaches in modifying behavioral concerns such as reactivity, aggression, separation anxiety and fear based responses. Katherine is a member of the Pet Professional Guild. She is focused on integrating a holistic and modern approach in addressing her client’s pet companion reactive behavior issues.

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