Stories

What stories you tell yourself about your family, friends or even your dogs?

Telling yourself stories about your expectations of how the interaction is going to go or predicting what someone is going to say or what your dog is going to do, robs you of living in the moment and responding to what is happening in the here and now.

These stories become beliefs about the world and when you’re unaware of how they impact your choice making, you’re no longer aware of your actions.

You’re on auto pilot.

Our minds rely on predictability for safety, but predicting what is to come prevents change.

Change for ourselves and for the others we encounter.

I relied heavily on predicting how a situation or how a person was going to react, because for the young me, it was steeped in surviving.

As an adult, the routine and strong tendency in predicting outcomes and anticipating what someone was going to say or do no longer worked.

It led me into feeling isolated and judgmental which kept me from connecting in a real way.

I would not pursue a particular path or feel confident in having a crucial conversation because I “knew how it was going to go” or “why bother, the other person doesn’t care”.

Even though my mind said they were true, in reality, they weren’t true and it was detrimental to my life in a big way.

I still believe my gremlins want what’s best for me, but I understand they don’t have the ability to take risks and extend trust in my capability or value my growth.

That’s ok. They don’t have to.

I trust myself to take action that I feel confident in taking and seeing what happens along the way.

What stories are you re evaluating and shedding this week?