Failures are A Stepping Stone to Your Wins

“We should never doubt how much we can accomplish, if only we can awaken to that potential and exercise it daily. The plan that is executed a little bit at a time, day by day, will have infinitely greater realization than the plan that, though grandiose, has not been given sufficient time and attention.” David Dillard-Wright, PhD.

This quote resonates with me so much because it speaks so profoundly to the work and success my clients experience not only in seeing their dogs change, but also what they themselves are achieving.

Let’s be real, it’s not just about the dogs, but it’s about you too.

You may be feeling defeated because you feel alone in your pursuits of helping your dog be more comfortable in new settings, but your friends and family don’t understand why you’re so concerned. They may even be telling you, it can’t be done.

You may feel you’re alone with moving forward on helping build your dog’s confidence because no one around you is supporting you and even questioning your choices.

Your confidence is lagging, but you still hold on to the hope that change is possible because your belief in desiring a better life for your dog resides within you.

What you don’t realize is that your life will change too.

Transformation is the result of working towards the success you want to achieve.

Simply put, transformation begins when you embody what you want and feel it deeply and take action every day towards your goals.

Change itself is not simple.

When milestones are being met and success happening, you feel on top of the world, but it can feel like a grind when you’re in a lull.

The lulls can really feel like a derailment, but it’s a normal part of the growth cycle. Without the lulls, you won’t be able to achieve something greater.

The pet parents and the coaching clients I support through their programs go through the hills and valleys of change.

They are struggling with aggression between their resident dogs and have witnessed severe fights between them.

They want their dogs to gain confidence and feel more comfortable with the world around them.

They are new business owners and are seeing how their business is much more about them than they ever thought!

Each of the pet parents and coaching clients start off in similar places, unsure and a little apprehensive, but they have a deep desire for something more.

What grounds them in their coaching programs is having a support system to help them through their growth.

  1. Surround themselves with others who have a similar mindset. When we are around others who share in our values, we feel validated and feel heard.
  2. You embody how you want to feel. When you perceive a failure as a personal fault, pangs of guilt and shame overwhelm you. You want to blame yourself or others. It is important for you to hang on to what it is you want to feel when you achieve your goals. This is your life raft. Holding on to what you want to achieve will encourage you to keep moving forward!
  3. Learn to receive what messages are coming your way regardless of how you judge them. Celebrate the wins of learning every day. The more practice you put into acknowledge the gratitude of what you accomplished, you’ll see more of this in your life. Recognize the opportunities that present themselves when you experience a failure. Remain objective and reflect on what this moment is saying to you. What adjustments are needed? This is the ebb and flow in growing.
  4. Invest in yourself and your dog’s relationship. Investing is not just a financial commitment, but it is making the choice in committing your time and energy into what you want to achieve. Committing to your goals will inevitably lead you taking action a little bit at a time. This dedication you have in creating a better life for yourself and your dog will also be what you rely on when you experience those dips in learning.

Are you ready to get started on your journey?

Published by houndbiz

Katherine Porter is a force free, reward based dog behavior advisor and consultant serving clients and their companion dogs worldwide. Her calm and gentle approach in coaching clients in effectively communicating what they want to their dog blends her MSW background into her dog training and behavior practice. Katherine was a behavior consultant for Heeling Hounds after graduation. She opened Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC when the military relocated her family to Fort Sill, OK in 2015. During this time, she volunteered with Rainbow Bridge Can Wait where she provided post adoption consultations to new pet parents. She also developed and implemented tailored behavior modification plans for highly reactive dogs residing at the shelter. She also provided educational programs to military children through interactive workshops at the Fort Sill School Age Center. In 2017, Katherine relocated Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC to Germany. She served the Armed Forces communities in Bavaria. She continued coaching and advising her clients in addressing their companion dog’s fearful and reactive behavioral issues. Katherine takes a Do No Harm approach first and foremost in providing behavioral plans. She is committed in serving clients with gentle and modern science approaches in modifying behavioral concerns such as reactivity, aggression, separation anxiety and fear based responses. Katherine is a member of the Pet Professional Guild. She is focused on integrating a holistic and modern approach in addressing her client’s pet companion reactive behavior issues.

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