Freedom from Control is Where You Find Love

You’re busy doing all the things.

One day bleeds into the next and you’re continuing on the hamster wheel.

Demands of work are growing and you find little time for anything else besides doing the daily grind.

You’ve believed for so long that getting the work done and being productive is what you value.

When you feel like you’re not hitting your marks one day and your dog (from your perspective) is not cooperating, you get angry.

Your expectation of your dog to follow your rules and for you to feel in control is shattered.

You become angry at your dog for interrupting a meeting and then feel guilty for scolding your dog for doing what he natural does.

“The strings attached” love you are giving your dog sets you both up for failure.

You’re setting unrealistic expectations on your dog that your dog didn’t agree to in the first place nor did he consent to this relationship.

When you’re expectations go unmet, you feel betrayed.

This type of love is contingent on your dog fulfilling your needs and now your dog owes you a debt.

Neither of you are empowered and dare I say, you’re betraying yourself in the long run for your misplaced expectations.

What if you had the chance to experience love that opened your heart to receiving and giving kindness, respect and safety?

Would this be a type of love which gives you and your dog the freedom to be who you are as individuals and connect with one another in a dog friendly way?

Free from judgment and labeling of what your dog is doing or behaving?

Understanding your needs for connection and freedom without the need to control, dominate and overpower the other.

Your dog doesn’t need a disciplinarian.

Your dog needs you to show up freely and with kindness everyday and in every moment.

Letting go of your expectations and showing up with a curiosity of what you both can experience together.

Find out what happens in the space between letting go of what no longer serves you and your dog and what you get to receive from a truly loving bond.

Published by houndbiz

Katherine Porter is a force free, reward based dog behavior advisor and consultant serving clients and their companion dogs worldwide. Her calm and gentle approach in coaching clients in effectively communicating what they want to their dog blends her MSW background into her dog training and behavior practice. Katherine was a behavior consultant for Heeling Hounds after graduation. She opened Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC when the military relocated her family to Fort Sill, OK in 2015. During this time, she volunteered with Rainbow Bridge Can Wait where she provided post adoption consultations to new pet parents. She also developed and implemented tailored behavior modification plans for highly reactive dogs residing at the shelter. She also provided educational programs to military children through interactive workshops at the Fort Sill School Age Center. In 2017, Katherine relocated Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC to Germany. She served the Armed Forces communities in Bavaria. She continued coaching and advising her clients in addressing their companion dog’s fearful and reactive behavioral issues. Katherine takes a Do No Harm approach first and foremost in providing behavioral plans. She is committed in serving clients with gentle and modern science approaches in modifying behavioral concerns such as reactivity, aggression, separation anxiety and fear based responses. Katherine is a member of the Pet Professional Guild. She is focused on integrating a holistic and modern approach in addressing her client’s pet companion reactive behavior issues.

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