Your Body Your Boundaries

My clients experience powerful awarenesses as they move through their coaching experiences with me.

They are gifted with an abundance of opportunities of exploring what patterns show up in their lives and what they can do to shift into living more authentically.

A theme arose this week of boundaries. Or rather when boundaries are crossed and the impact of this experience on someone’s body and how they take action when they aren’t in tune with how they feel.

For instance, one person may set a boundary of “thank you, but no” when presented with an offer, but the other person may not accept this and push the question, demand or expectation again.

When the boundary is set again and the same person doesn’t once again accept the answer, this can leave the person setting the boundary as feeling cornered or pushed up against the wall.

The feeling left behind is anger and resentment. When the person with the boundary being crossed doesn’t recognize how these feelings are showing up as tension and pings of pain in the shoulder and neck when the boundary is crossed, the body is ignored. When the body goes unrecognized, the energy of this feeling has to go somewhere since it has become uncontainable.

When the person has a pattern of ignoring these sensations, this can lead to angered outbursts at those who you love, including your dogs.

When the explosion occurs, often the aftermath is everyone is left feeling confused and scared while the person may be feeling guilt and shame for responding in such a manner when the reaction wasn’t warranted.

It can be destructive to your close relationships. Your dogs and your family members may not understand what’s happening. Trust gets broken.

On the other hand, when the same person is more aware of the impact of how setting a boundary may be ignored by someone (or in some cases, by the same someone), and the feeling of tension in the body shows up, the person understands what is happening is less about themselves and more about how the other person needs repeated reminders of your boundaries.

At this stage, there are more empowered choices that can be made in the moment of how to address the individual and the situation.

What results is the person experiencing more freedom in expressing themselves in a manner that is more aligned with their own integrity and agency.

This awareness may lead the person into making a choice of how to work with this person if its in an office setting, it may lead to limiting how this person has access to them if its a friend or family member or it may also inform the person about how to create clearer expectations with customers.

When you become more aware of how things show up for you in your own body through the sensations of what interactions and situations bring up in you, you can be more clear on what you want to say “yes” to and what you want to say “no” to and this is a gift you create for yourself.

Setting your boundaries informs other people how to treat you.

If you desire support in how you can create boundaries for your work and personal life that reflect your values, jump on a call with me and we can strategize what this can look like for you!