Ask for Support, Your Body and Your Dog Will Thank You!

You do all the things for your family.

You’re juggling work, taking care of things in the home, your family and you feel like you don’t have space for yourself.

On top of it, now you are the one who is the primary caregiver for the dog you and your family added to the family.

You believed everyone was going to share in the responsibilities in caring for your companion animal, but you found yourself doing this too.

You’re exhausted and frustrated.

You’re at a crossroads.

You’ve vented your frustration with your family about what your dog is doing and they go into problem solving mode.

Their solutions don’t line up with your values of ensuring the care and welfare of your dog.

Your whole body tells you, pain, force and intimidation is not the answer or the direction you want to go in how you want to show up for your dog.

What you didn’t see clearly before, but now you do is that what you need is support not permission.

Support in how you take space for yourself to reset.

Support in seeing the connection of when you take time to be present with your dog, not only does your dog receive connection, companionship and love, but you receive too.

You receive relief from the swirling of anxiety and confusion from all the doing for others and what you give yourself and your body is calmness from the raging storm inside of you.

When you see the fruits of your labor in how your dog starts seeking you out when otherwise he would feel fear and frustration, you want to throw a party!

I invite you to include yourself in that party too.

You, along with your dog deserve celebration. Taking the step into prioritizing yourself, what your dog needs and putting into action skill building exercises which strengthen the flame of connection you know is already lit, you fan the flames to create more fire and energy to do this all again.

Maybe, the support you desire is for your family to help you out with other responsibilities while you take the loving leadership role in your dog’s life.

Want to explore what is showing up for you? Let’s chat

Taking Center Stage

Investing in your transformation is priceless.

When you are intentional about how you invest your time, money and resources, you are actively taking a step to changing your life.

One client shared with me yesterday, that the investment in carving out time with her dog and working with a professional, she shared that yes her dog is a different dog than when we started, but her intimate and other professionals relationships have changed too.

This amazes her, but doesn’t surprise me. All of our relationships are interwoven together and taking center stage is you.

You are the one who has the primary role in your life.

Your confidence and honoring your inner wisdom allows you to freely express yourself because you trust who you are and you stand firm in your values.

The same person shared how now she can confidently and unwaveringly take action with her dog in a do no harm manner even when other “strategies” are suggested by those around her.

The ripples of learning move beyond the human and dog bond. The ripples influence and shape other connections too because you transform.

Another client shared with me that she prefers the approach of co-creating a training plan. She’s worked with others who tell her what to do, but they don’t listen to what she has to say.

Often, in the dog training space, professionals have their own judgments of what is needed for the client and their dog without hearing what the person is saying about what their dog needs or wants.

This is a common theme many of my clients shared with me along the way.

I deeply listen to what you communicate as your desire and what you envision for your future.

When we work together, you create your vision of what you desire your life to look like and I guide you along the way.

I support you by helping you get really clear on where you want to go and what next step is aligned for you, not what’s best for me.

The work we get to do together is much more about supporting you in how you make the choice to show up for yourself, others and your companion animals.

You gain more self awareness, how to live more presently and discovering your own empowerment that is laying in plain sight.

When you discover your own empowerment, you make choices from a more confident place and your trust for yourself grows.

Curious about what this gets to look like for you? Schedule a time to connect with me.

Your Body Your Boundaries

My clients experience powerful awarenesses as they move through their coaching experiences with me.

They are gifted with an abundance of opportunities of exploring what patterns show up in their lives and what they can do to shift into living more authentically.

A theme arose this week of boundaries. Or rather when boundaries are crossed and the impact of this experience on someone’s body and how they take action when they aren’t in tune with how they feel.

For instance, one person may set a boundary of “thank you, but no” when presented with an offer, but the other person may not accept this and push the question, demand or expectation again.

When the boundary is set again and the same person doesn’t once again accept the answer, this can leave the person setting the boundary as feeling cornered or pushed up against the wall.

The feeling left behind is anger and resentment. When the person with the boundary being crossed doesn’t recognize how these feelings are showing up as tension and pings of pain in the shoulder and neck when the boundary is crossed, the body is ignored. When the body goes unrecognized, the energy of this feeling has to go somewhere since it has become uncontainable.

When the person has a pattern of ignoring these sensations, this can lead to angered outbursts at those who you love, including your dogs.

When the explosion occurs, often the aftermath is everyone is left feeling confused and scared while the person may be feeling guilt and shame for responding in such a manner when the reaction wasn’t warranted.

It can be destructive to your close relationships. Your dogs and your family members may not understand what’s happening. Trust gets broken.

On the other hand, when the same person is more aware of the impact of how setting a boundary may be ignored by someone (or in some cases, by the same someone), and the feeling of tension in the body shows up, the person understands what is happening is less about themselves and more about how the other person needs repeated reminders of your boundaries.

At this stage, there are more empowered choices that can be made in the moment of how to address the individual and the situation.

What results is the person experiencing more freedom in expressing themselves in a manner that is more aligned with their own integrity and agency.

This awareness may lead the person into making a choice of how to work with this person if its in an office setting, it may lead to limiting how this person has access to them if its a friend or family member or it may also inform the person about how to create clearer expectations with customers.

When you become more aware of how things show up for you in your own body through the sensations of what interactions and situations bring up in you, you can be more clear on what you want to say “yes” to and what you want to say “no” to and this is a gift you create for yourself.

Setting your boundaries informs other people how to treat you.

If you desire support in how you can create boundaries for your work and personal life that reflect your values, jump on a call with me and we can strategize what this can look like for you!