Guide Your Dog and Experience What Is Possible

You’re only experience with dog training is what everyone else is doing around you.

What you observe in how traditional methods are used and relied upon, it makes you uneasy and it’s misaligned with your values.

You don’t see how pain and punishment has any role in teaching and guiding.

You want something different.

You’re skeptical, but you’re also willing to try it out.

As you move through your training program with me, you deepen your awareness of how strengthening the relationship between you and your dog leads you into exploring opportunities to have an integrated life with your dog.

You experience the freedom of having the world at your feet and at your dog’s paws.

You can make choices to travel and bring your dog with you, you can observe how the investment of time and energy you committed to in teaching your dog how to make choices allows your dog to build confidence, feel relaxed and to seek you out in times of uncertainty.

Wendy and her family followed their values and chose a dog friendly way of training.

What culminated for Cooper and his family is the first of many successful camping trips.

Alongside what Cooper achieved, she and her partner became citizen scientists in the experience.

During their recent camping trip, Wendy shared, “The dogs who were most reactive, are the ones wearing shock and martingale collars. Who were yelled at as soon as they made any noise. Surprisingly (to her not me lol), Cooper was the one who barked the least at other dogs and he was the only one not being yelled at or forced down into a lay.”

Wendy goes on to say, “I feel like he had more freedom. He chose when to stop barking. He wasn’t forced to sit or lay (which is weird that this was a tactic). So I can visibly see how force free training was better method for Cooper.”

When you allow your dog to make choices that you’ve spent time reinforcing, you too can experience a freedom from micromanaging and feeling a need to control what your dog is doing.

Instead, you and your dog feel connected and your dog trusts he or she will be and stay safe and this gives your dog the freedom to choose.

Find out how building a relationship with your dog can give you both more freedom.

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Seeing What Happens When You Make Choices that Expand on What You Want Rather than What Others Expect from You

You feel like you don’t have time for yourself.

You expend your free time saying “yes” to others leading you to over extend yourself and leaving you depleted.

You feel frustrated when you come to the end of your weekend and you don’t have any more energy or time to do things you want to do for yourself let alone for your family.

Now, your dog is needing you too, but you feel like you don’t have any more to give.

You see your dog’s “behavior issues” like jumping up, whining, pacing more as a nuisance and just another thing to do.

You just want to scream!

When you’re willing to make changes in your life, you receive support in ways you didn’t know existed.

You find out that you can give yourself permission in doing things differently.

You recognize your truth and you can make the choice in doing things differently.

You live from a place of freedom, not from other people’s expectation.

When you activate your action steps from how you want to feel, your world expands.

One coaching client shared this with me the other day.

She felt overwhelmed by her dog’s behavior concerns because she was over extended in social and professional relationships and didn’t have any more to give.

When she realized her own power in how she can use her time in a manner which feeds into feeling a sense of freedom, she now sees how her dog’s needs matter.

When she shifted her mindset based on how she wants to feel confident in knowing how to help her dog and for her to dog to feel relaxed and safe, she feels more connected with her companion.

In one situation, she mentioned she used to become frustrated with her dog being underfoot in the kitchen and demanding her dog to get out.

Repeatedly saying “NO!”

Now on her path of changing patterns, she asks her dog to find a chewy (she recognized how she already taught her dog to do this).

Her dog responds by getting a chewy and goes into another room and entertains herself when my client is cooking dinner for her family.

After dinner, they spend time together playing some games and cuddling on the couch.

The simplest of actions saves her and her dog a ton of frustration and expands their capability to connect. Learning how to replenish my client’s emotional well starts with making choices which puts how she wants to feel front and center.

If something doesn’t align in this way, then she has the freedom to say “NO” to obligations that don’t serve her.

She’s finding the freedom in her life when she gives herself permission to prioritize what she wants versus what others expect from her.

You can get started on your journey too.

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The Most Dangerous Phrase in the English Language is…..

Old school dog training uses the word commands when discussing basic skills like sit, stay, wait ect.

According to the Oxford Dictionary, the word command means:

“Authoritative order”

“Control, restrain over”

“Dominate”

And the understanding of commands is related back to military uses of the word and how command is operationally defined.

When you read these definitions, how do you feel?

What comes up for your when you hear or read the word command?

For me, I feel constricted and see it as a top down approach.

It denotes an all or nothing mentality.

It evokes the need to micromanage.

Going one step further, when the “command” isn’t followed, what happens next?

Pain in order to get compliance, that’s what happens next.

Now, how does that feel to you?

Commands aren’t about freedom for you or your dog.

Your expectations get wrapped up in what your dog does and when that doesn’t happen because it will, you become frustrated and you’re tied up in the outcome.

You begin to constrict more and more of your dog’s freedom because of the failure of compliance and you also micromanage yourself too.

What if you considered shifting the word choice to something like cue, signal or ask to expand your perspective.

Just because it’s always been done this way, doesn’t mean you have to be boxed into doing it too.

According to Mark Cuban, “Wherever I see people doing something the way it’s always been done, the way it’s ‘supposed’ to be done, following the same old trends, well, that’s just a big red flag to me to go look somewhere else.”

Changing the word you used gives you choice because you recognize you don’t have to do things that have been part of the dog training culture.

The impact you have when you can make a different choice is clear.

Freedom comes from choosing differently based on what you value and what you want more of in your life with your dog.

The simplicity of choosing a different way to describe what you’re wanting your dog to do is no longer about control, but bringing the power back to you of what you want to achieve.

When you make a change in choosing a different word to describe what you are doing and teaching, you start creating more freedom in your life.

Granting choice and guiding your dog to make the choice that is the safest and the most pleasurable for both of you creates the space for you to:

Enjoy daily walks.

Entertain friends and family at your house.

Feeling secure your dog is safe when he is left home alone.

Taking the simplest of action towards what you want, you start changing your life and you and your dog receive much more than just learning what a word means.

You start experiencing the joy of building a relationship with your companion.

Are you willing to try something new?