Creating Joyous Relationships

Creating rich and joyous relationships don’t happen out of thin air.

In my work serving individuals and families, their ability to be self aware set the stage in how they can show up for others in a real and powerful way.

Sometimes, anger and frustration you experience in other parts of your life are filtered into the close bond you have with a friend or family member.

One woman I served, she expressed dissatisfaction about her work life and her struggles with her own family.

Mary was taught, like many of us are, to stuff down those painful feelings and keep moving forward.

She didn’t have an outlet to express feelings of anger, despair and loneliness in a healthy way.

When we first started, she experienced physical pain in her shoulders and back.

The physical pain is then made apparent when Penny, Mary’s dog lunges at the end of the leash causing her to overextend her arm and jerks her shoulders.

Mary would become angry at Penny for causing her pain.

In our work together, Mary recognized Penny isn’t the source of her pain. Penny’s action of lunging was just the catalyst for her to take a look at the whole picture.

Her pain was emotional pain manifested into her physical body and once she touched on her real feelings about work and family, she started releasing how her body held on to those experiences.

Through the unwinding of how Mary tied her anger, frustration and shame to Penny we unraveled how Mary wanted to use the energy of her anger and frustration into something productive.

Mary shared she wanted Penny to seek her out more, for them to have more fun together and to have a secure attachment.

When Mary created the intention of what she wanted, she began bringing more of these experiences into her life.

She began experiencing Penny enthusiastically seeking her out, relaxing more in the home and even making new choices of how Penny can entertain herself.

Setting the intention of where Mary wanted to put her energy and focus doesn’t negate the heaviness in other parts of her life, but rather, Mary has a way to channel that energy into parts of her life where she can experience more of what she wants.

More joy.

More laughs.

And the ultimately experience more love.

Through our connections with others, we see parts of ourselves we didn’t recognize before and what you choose to do with these new awarenesses can greatly impact any relationship you have in your life.

The choice is yours.

Feel free to set up a Discovery Call with me!

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Katherine Porter is a force free, reward based dog behavior advisor and consultant serving clients and their companion dogs worldwide. Her calm and gentle approach in coaching clients in effectively communicating what they want to their dog blends her MSW background into her dog training and behavior practice. Katherine was a behavior consultant for Heeling Hounds after graduation. She opened Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC when the military relocated her family to Fort Sill, OK in 2015. During this time, she volunteered with Rainbow Bridge Can Wait where she provided post adoption consultations to new pet parents. She also developed and implemented tailored behavior modification plans for highly reactive dogs residing at the shelter. She also provided educational programs to military children through interactive workshops at the Fort Sill School Age Center. In 2017, Katherine relocated Four Paws and You Dog Training LLC to Germany. She served the Armed Forces communities in Bavaria. She continued coaching and advising her clients in addressing their companion dog’s fearful and reactive behavioral issues. Katherine takes a Do No Harm approach first and foremost in providing behavioral plans. She is committed in serving clients with gentle and modern science approaches in modifying behavioral concerns such as reactivity, aggression, separation anxiety and fear based responses. Katherine is a member of the Pet Professional Guild. She is focused on integrating a holistic and modern approach in addressing her client’s pet companion reactive behavior issues.

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