Facing Fear

When you’re struggling with something new like embarking on a new project, being presented with a challenge within a relationship with your partner or feeling uncertainty with a concerning behavior your dog is expressing, you feel fear.

Fear creeps in because what you’re presented with is unchartered territory and you have no experience with addressing this, you’re being pushed out of your comfort zone.

Your confidence lags.

You “think” gathering more information on the specific area of focus will somehow bestow confidence on you.

You scour FB groups, read blogs and check out websites to find the solution.

Still, the confidence doesn’t show up.

You feel lost and directionless.

Our minds are terrific at processing information and laying out a plan.

What you’re missing in your quest in gaining confidence for yourself and your situation is turning on the light within yourself that you believe you can get to the other side of the problem.

You aren’t just your thoughts. You are experiencing the world outside of yourself through you ability to see, taste, hear, touch and of course feeling what is is happening within and outside of you.

When you allow yourself to experience the world coming through you and listening to you inner knowing of where you go from here, you create your plan.

The individuals and families I serve value their dogs’ emotional needs because they are emotionally invested in their dogs’ well-being.

They have carefully researched their options and link up with me because we are on the same page. Our partnership is based on mutual trust and we have shared values!

This alone allows for sharing of thoughts and ideas which makes it easy for them to implement the skills.

When they do, they see changes take shape before their eyes. But the doing isn’t the only thing that’s most important.

The felt experience of of their dogs feeling more comfortable, relaxed and safe allows their people to also experience the same. Together, they feel more hope and experience more confidence in handling any situation that comes along.

They’ve quieted the fear.

Now, they can see their path illuminate and see what’s possible.

Lessons Learned in Creating Resilient Relationships Workshop

We had such a powerful Creating Resilient Relationships Workshop yesterday!

Participants shared how they wanted to find ways to better connect with their dogs.

They also wanted to change perceptions and “how things were done.”

Yes! “How things are done” isn’t how those in the group wanted to express their love, compassion and kindness to their dogs. Changing the pattens of thinking because participants gained understanding that the way we feel influences the way we think and what we think makes us feel a certain way.

We all know that dog training industry is full of outdated beliefs!

Those old patterns of thought and beliefs keep people, like you, from living authentically in their own lives.

They also learned they have the power within themselves to make different choices even if it feels scary.

Even if no one else is doing it, because their eyes were opened to nothing will change if they don’t make the first step into “doing what they feel is right.”

Growth requires all of us to take action even when we feel fear.

Fear only holds you back and keeps you doing the same thing over and over again.

Taking action strengthens your self confidence and the action you take, informs you of where you take your next step.

Through repeated action, are you able to envision where you want to go on your journey.

Participants shared how this workshop helped them gain insights into how they can become more self aware of themselves and in turn, how this connection back to their own sensations in their body helped them to see the importance of meeting their dogs’ emotional needs.

The connections we made and the active participation within the group also gave space for participants to feel in community with other likeminded folks.

In the sea of making choices outside of what societal standards and norms tell us to do or instruct us to act, our lively group had a space to explore their own experiences and what worked for them in their journey in gaining a deeper knowing of themselves.

Amazing people and amazing awarenesses coming through for each of them in their own unique way.

The Shifts in Your Life Begin with You

I shifted my dog behavior consulting business into a relationship coaching business because what showed up with my dog training clients centered around relationships.

For many of them, the relationship with themself took center stage.

Relationships aren’t just between people. Relationships are between us and what we connect with (people, companion animals, money, work and productivity and ourselves).

Companion animals can teach us so much about who we are and even areas needing some caretaking. Relationships with our dogs keep our hearts open to receiving their unconditional love.

Sometimes, us humans give only conditional love back to them. Placing expectations and contingencies on them.

Dogs have no part in consenting to or even negotiating the terms of the rules of do this or else.

This is where the disconnect often begins the journey into self discovery.

For many, what is learned didn’t just end with them and their dogs. They applied their learning into other relationships they have in their life that experienced some strain or entanglement.

Those who have come through my door as I made this transition, received relationship coaching which allowed them to tap into their own self awareness which highlighted how they communicate and connect with others.

When they can see themselves objectively, they can begin to empathize and and see the situation from the other point of view.

When they took the first step on their journey of self discovery, their inner knowing of what they desire awakened.

They felt into what shows up for them when conflicts arise and when miscommunication happens.

They sourced their own joy regardless of what life has to offer.

The individuals and families I serve make the linkages between how they feel with the action they take. They uncover the blindspots which keep them stuck doing the same thing without a different result.

They have the opportunity to put to words the heavy feelings they experience and access their desire of what they want to do and what they want their life to look like moving forward.

They learn how to empower themselves through their own inspired action.

I often hear people feel trapped, imprisoned and enslaved by the relationships they have within their lives.

They feel stuck in the belief they are not doing enough, they have to be perfect and ultimately they are looking for approval from others rather than finding it within themselves.

For many of the women (some heart-centered men) I serve, they recognize that the feeling of being imprisoned highlighted for them how they desired more freedom in their lives.

They connected that giving themselves permission to choose what they get to feel and when is empowering.

They took action by letting go of expectations that their dogs had to all be together in order for them to experience freedom and happiness.

They sourced their own management plan and their confidence soared (for both the humans and the dog).

They spoke to the limiting belief they couldn’t explore their own interests outside of the home because the fear had them stuck being at home 24/7.

They created action steps in encouraging their dogs to enjoy spending time on their own when they were home, so their dogs can be more comfortable when their pet parents were going to the gym, visiting with family and even going to the grocery store.

They created space in their day to tap into exploring hobbies they wanted to try on when their dogs and children were safely entertaining themselves.

They taught their dogs to take breaks during play so they didn’t have to be the constant referees for their dogs.

They found the joy.

They found freedom.

Do you want to reconnect with yourself so you can have stronger and more loving relationships with others in your life?

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