Creating Joyous Relationships

Creating rich and joyous relationships don’t happen out of thin air.

In my work serving individuals and families, their ability to be self aware set the stage in how they can show up for others in a real and powerful way.

Sometimes, anger and frustration you experience in other parts of your life are filtered into the close bond you have with a friend or family member.

One woman I served, she expressed dissatisfaction about her work life and her struggles with her own family.

Mary was taught, like many of us are, to stuff down those painful feelings and keep moving forward.

She didn’t have an outlet to express feelings of anger, despair and loneliness in a healthy way.

When we first started, she experienced physical pain in her shoulders and back.

The physical pain is then made apparent when Penny, Mary’s dog lunges at the end of the leash causing her to overextend her arm and jerks her shoulders.

Mary would become angry at Penny for causing her pain.

In our work together, Mary recognized Penny isn’t the source of her pain. Penny’s action of lunging was just the catalyst for her to take a look at the whole picture.

Her pain was emotional pain manifested into her physical body and once she touched on her real feelings about work and family, she started releasing how her body held on to those experiences.

Through the unwinding of how Mary tied her anger, frustration and shame to Penny we unraveled how Mary wanted to use the energy of her anger and frustration into something productive.

Mary shared she wanted Penny to seek her out more, for them to have more fun together and to have a secure attachment.

When Mary created the intention of what she wanted, she began bringing more of these experiences into her life.

She began experiencing Penny enthusiastically seeking her out, relaxing more in the home and even making new choices of how Penny can entertain herself.

Setting the intention of where Mary wanted to put her energy and focus doesn’t negate the heaviness in other parts of her life, but rather, Mary has a way to channel that energy into parts of her life where she can experience more of what she wants.

More joy.

More laughs.

And the ultimately experience more love.

Through our connections with others, we see parts of ourselves we didn’t recognize before and what you choose to do with these new awarenesses can greatly impact any relationship you have in your life.

The choice is yours.

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Family is Family Regardless of Two or Four Legs!

Last week, I traveled down to Florida to celebrate my brother’s wedding.

An added bonus, it was also like a mini family reunion.

We shared laughs, oh my all the laughs and even planned a family trip in the coming year.

A highlight for me was my conversation with my Aunt about the dog training industry.

What she learned through her daughter’s (my cousin) experience working with me is that it isn’t teaching a dog to obey and operate like a robot.

My Aunt understood that living life with your dog is all about the relationship, the cooperation and the collaboration you do with your dog.

This understanding resonated with her so much because she values the heart centered connection of bringing family together and having strong ties with those she cares about including the dogs.

The dog-human relationship is the cornerstone of any skill building you want to do with your dog.

Without the connection, you won’t achieve the skills you want to teach your dog to offer.

At the heart of my work with those I serve, it all comes down to creating heart-centered and resilient relationships.

When you open to this new understanding and have an affinity in creating a life with your dog, I’m here to guide you.

I have one spot remaining in my Creating Resilient Relationships virtual workshop happening next week!

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Choose How You Feel and Transform Your Life

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One of the greatest understandings I’ve gained in serving in the dog training and behavior industry is about the human-dog connection.

The emotional lives of ourselves and our dogs intersect at the relationship you enter into with your dog.

Dogs feel and they communicate those sensations and emotions through their body language and vocal expressions.

They don’t possess the words to describe those feelings.

They act on them.

The consequences of those actions then shape what they do again.

When you enter into a relationship with your dog, you may not be aware of how you feel or aware of how your feelings impact the choices you make in your life with work, family, friends and not just with your dog.

You are snapped into the here and now when your dog has an emotional eruption of barking, lunging and even growling and biting.

What you’ve been telling yourself is no longer working and you feel exposed.

Your fear of what others may think, what this says about you and what you tell yourself come flooding in.

Your body and mind are overcome with swirling thoughts and intense sensations running throughout your entire being.

You feel frozen in place.

You feel like running away.

You feel like mirroring your dog and exploding too.

Or you may feel timid, foolish or even dismissive of how serious the situation is with your dog leading you into blaming others, yourself or even your dog.

The beliefs you have about yourself keep you stuck.

Not only do these beliefs keep you swirling, you then these beliefs become the thoughts you tell yourself which bleed over into what words you describe yourself and your dog.

You tell yourself “you’re not good enough.” “You’re not smart enough.”

“You’re not enough.”

You then label your dog’s emotions as bad and irrational.

Which isn’t it just a reflection of what you’re already telling yourself?

Your thoughts lead to your actions.

Actions which are emotionally and even physically harmful to yourself and your dog.

When you deepen your awareness of how and what you feel and recognize you are not your feelings and you have a choice, the freedom that comes from flipping this switch can start shifting things in your life and in life with your dog.

Once you start opening your heart up to new possibilities with how you show up for yourself and see how it can be transformational in your relationship with your dog, you want everyone to experience the same!

For one of the women I serve, she shared how is now able to recognize when anger and frustration bubble up for her, she has the space to make a choice.

She chooses not to act on those feelings, but ask herself what’s really going on!

She recognizes the power she has to make different choices in her life which impacts herself, her dog Luna, but also sees how this can change other relationships in her life.

She wants everyone to experience this because sourced from her words, “life would be so much easier when we don’t blame others, but take ownership of ourselves.”

Maybe it’s time to see what’s really showing up for you and what you’re telling yourself about who you are.

If you desire to deepen your awareness of how your thoughts become your action and how this can impact your relationships with those around you, sign up for the Creating Resilient Relationship Workshop.

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